Otherwise, our thoughts and actions cannot be properly tempered with true empathy and compassion. If we start at the head and only consider the heart and emotions with the intellect, we fail to truly touch the meaning of such heart based feelings.
Words can become daggers, good intentions become manipulative self service.
When we do not connect with the heart, do we even truly connect?
One could argue that there are simply differing types of people. Maybe.
But should one who is based in the heart ever have to shut off the flow?
It can happen all to easily when a heart based individual is confronted with the attempt of intimacy with a head based partner. It is an incredible challenge to keep that heart open when the other person in the dynamic keeps theirs shut or open only for moments at a time.
Of course, the ultimate is to develop a true balance between head and heart, with neither ruling over the other, but these two centers of being work in harmony.
Both head and heart have their own sort of fears and problems engendered to them.
With the heart, emotional vulnerability, with the head, intellectual righteousness.
When we invest too deeply in the safety of either of these things, we suffer.
We block off the path to love and we become dogmatic in our thinking and combative towards new and outside ideas.
If we become self righteous about our ideas, we easily become blinded to truth. We start running programs rather than openly asking questions.
If we become self righteous with our love, we become possessive and jealous.
If we become possessive and judgmental about how we share our love, we become cold and calculating, we cannot give freely or in a way that is not first invested to our own self interest.
While one would hope that to give love freely is in one’s own self interest, many find intense fear in this regard, as if there is only so much love to be had. But, truth be told, the more each of us shares our love freely, the more love there is. To withhold out of fear stifles love’s ability to multiply.
I know that I have gone through my share of ‘heart-ache’ throughout the years, but never ever do I regret any of it. Instead, I find within it the lessons which will help me further develop my heart, my head, my ability to love and my ability to think.
The ultimate goal, at least for myself, is to be able to freely share with both heart and head, at least with a partner and hopefully with an ever expanding world.